third person
My slave is such a good girl. I’ve had nothing but a wonderful experience training her. She’s very receptive to anything I teach, and it sometimes is a challenge to stay two or three steps ahead of her. These days, I search for challenges. But when we met, I had already learned many things from my exploration of the world of BDSM or D/s. In particular, I was fascinated with how I felt when the slave would speak of herself in the third person. Of the many things I found to be arousing, I knew that this was something that would be a reminder of her position as a slave/sub, and my own as a Master/Dom. And it was something that she could be trained to do. I wanted her to do this all the time, but more importantly, I wanted her to do this naturally, without thinking. It would create a mindset, and I would know whether or not she was in “slave mode” just by listening to her. It was a speech protocol that could be used to measure her sense of submission to me at any given moment. I never reprimanded her for lack of use. Instead, I told her how arousing it is to me. I suggested that it might be arousing to her as well. She was surprised to hear this, when first introduced to the concept.
I found that joining her in a long distance relationship was ironically advantageous. We first met each other in *SecondLife*, in some pervey sim. (SL is an interactive 3D chat room, within which you make an avatar to represent yourself.) I think both of us were extremely tired of meeting one boring avatar after the next. I had previously had short relationships in SL to varying degrees of intimacy. Each one was more and more enlightening, and it seemed that I’d finally met someone who kept my interest far longer than any of them ever could. To be fair, because of the nature of SL and how much I immersed myself in it, basically addicted to it, personally I had grown emotionally over about two and a half years before meeting My slave, and those previous relationships provided me with any personal growth experience I needed before finally meeting her.
So our long distance relationship began with the chatroom in this 3D world of *SecondLife* and we communicated within a text chat window. Among the concepts to which I’d introduced her, were those of Training, and Honorifics. The concept of “training” was fun to help her through, as was helping her understand that calling me “Sir” is a totally appropriate expectation to have of my new emerging submissive. (The process is now known fondly as “The ‘Sir’ Saga” hehe.) But the primary means of communication was via text, within a chat window, first through SL, and shortly after that, we used Yahoo chat. Eventually we went to voice, and much later used a webcam, and have ever since.
Using only text to communicate forced me to choose my words carefully. It allowed me to refer to past conversations we might have had, or frankly, to refer to a few lines typed only moments before. It allowed me to look at what she “said” and to decide how I felt about it. I had been around SL for a long time, and one of the main ideas in the BDSM world or the world of Gor, was that a slave would refer to herself in the third person. Communicating by writing alone became a huge advantage when I began training her to explore her submissive nature. Communicating in the third person had helped her to understand her submissive nature, and our relative positions to each other. I encouraged her to try using it more, and thus internalizing it for our benefit as Dominant and submissive.
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I never let go of the usefulness of the written word, and it’s a wonderful aspect of our current relationship, especially being a long distance one. Unless someone’s been in an LDR, it’s hard to understand which layers of a relationship can grow that couldn’t otherwise grow, without first being in one like this together.
She put her thoughts down in this email to me, July 7, 2009, a year after we met online:
The biggest thing to arise yesterday was around this girl talking in the third person, how it feels and the change in her perception from a year ago.
When she looks back, it’s amazing how resistant she was to using this form of speech. She has gradually become more accustomed to it, and she knows how much it pleases Master. Somehow, that is all that matters. Yet, if she is honest, the grammar/pronunciation part of her brain does sometimes shout out loud at her because this is really not usual or normal. In the Dom/slave world she is aware that the majority of Doms enjoy this form of address, the distinction between the Dom and the slave. Really, what it all boils down to is about what pleases this girl’s Master and in using this form of address and language she knows it intensifies T/their relationship. It increases and enhances both Master’s and girl’s awareness of T/their respective places, so it can only be a positive fulfilling change in use of language. That is the conclusion that this girl has come to, albeit in a round about way! haha. She gets there in the end, something that Master has always been very patient about. She likes how it feels, Master loves it, so it’s here to stay!
Use of the third person can be very magnifying to a Master/slave relationship. That is what this girl has truly noticed over the past few weeks, and she has endeavoured to use it more and more. What is clear is that it’s much easier and far more natural to use it here when writing down these musings and thoughts. It is also natural and flows when Master and this girl are together, while Master is using the girl for His pleasure. However, there are times when it would get in the way of normal flowing conversation, and she is grateful that Master hasn’t come down on her with such a fixed protocol, but instead has allowed her discretion to use what feels right and natural. Hopefully, as more time progresses, T/they will find a perfect balance. As she sits here typing this she feels that point isn’t too far away. To think… a year ago, this girl had major discussions with Master about how difficult she found it to use the form of address of ‘Sir’! lol, too funny.
For the past ten or eleven months, she has never doubted that her Master has the capacity, love or strength to guide them ever onward. It’s so very clear that these past few weeks have been perhaps the most affirming ones so far. Sometimes, it can be hard to put feelings into words, as they always fall terribly short of the intensity of what she feels and experiences. It’s almost like completing a jigsaw puzzle, when nearly all the pieces are in place. While it’s clear what the picture is supposed to be, it’s not quite finished because some key little pieces are missing. Then suddenly, those pieces are found and a picture appears completed! Well, in this girl’s humble opinion those missing pieces of the jigsaw have gradually been found over these past couple weeks:
They all tie in and ultimately, enable Master to feel and be a Master more effectively because His slave is performing and behaving like a true slave.
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It seems that whenever she feels strongly in appreciation, she is motivated to express herself by kneeling. For a perspective on how this is done in this LDR, and how it feels to both Me, and My slave, I’ve written *sustenance* with vivid expression.
Before finishing the letter, she expressed herself in this way:
She has to just mention kneeling, again! She always seems to come back to kneeling. It’s a thread throughout her thoughts and writings because it’s the one act that, in a matter of seconds, ensures this girl feels her slavery, and in performing this one act her Master truly feels her submission. She needs to kneel. She wants to be better. She wants to hear Him breathe heavy when her breasts and face are pushed against the floor and her ass pushed up in the air, knees apart in the first position – needs to stay there at His feet worshiping Him, submitting herself to Him. She loves the feel of it, the cool air on the exposed wet pussy (because within seconds of being in the first position the pussy is wet), just waiting for His instruction to move to 2nd position then 3rd.
More recently, Master has commanded this girl expose herself more to Him, showing the pussy closer, in more detail. Something that within her she felt a little resistance, after all, it’s still kinda new, and being very open, yet she cannot show resistance any more to Master. She is His property, He owns her, to resist would be wrong and punishable and disappointing for Him, and she hates to disappoint Him. Being on display and so exposed is also very erotic (if also still a little daunting), and of course, as Master knows, this girl is a total horny dirty slut! Plus she loves and needs to please her Master – it’s as easy as that.
She wants to be the best she can be, perform the best, hear those wonderful words come forth from His lips, “Good girl,” mmmmm. For after all, isn’t that what it’s all about? Master is the centre of everything for this girl, her purpose is to make Him happy. In return, the pleasure she gets back is immeasurable. If she is very lucky He gives her a gift, allowing her to touch herself and/or cum. She also knows that Master cherishes and appreciates this girl and loves her, so for her to hear those wonderful words of praise, “good girl” is sometimes all she needs. She is content, she is happy, she is His slave. Now she can rest.
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/// (c) Master Zoomer
/// “third person”
/// May 9, 2010
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You both write extremely well. You communicate your thoughts about M/s with precision. You speak of yourselves and each other with respect.
Well written.